Self-determination is having the power to shape your own destiny. It is a basic human desire and one of the four powers — regions of a Mighty Oak — that lead to self-fulfillment.
But, in order to achieve it, you must be willing to take responsibility for all your actions.
You can’t take credit for the good things that happen to you while blaming others, or external sources (such as God), for the bad.
You can’t decide which aspects of your life you have control over and which you don’t.
A critical factor in developing the power of self-determination is where you place your locus of control.
Your locus of control is the location, either internal or external, where you tend to believe that control resides for the events and circumstances of your life.
Either you see yourself as being in control of your life, or you see yourself as being a victim of fate, or the actions of others.
If you perceive that you have limited control over what happens to you, then your locus of control is external and you believe that outside sources are primarily responsible for your life experiences. You do not feel like you are in control of your own destiny and you have a tendency to blame others for what happens to you.
On the other hand, your locus of control is internal if you believe that the events and circumstances of your life are a result of the decisions you make. You understand that your actions have consequences and you can see the relationship between the two. You accept responsibility for your decisions and their outcomes.
If you believe that external circumstances, rather than internal mechanisms, are the cause of your actions, you are more likely to surrender to peer pressure.
In contrast, if you see yourself as independent, you will tend to be a leader rather than a follower.
If you have a strong internal locus of control, you can reflect on your strengths, limitations, and needs (self-knowledge), and learn to set goals and implement strategies (self-discipline).
You can increase your awareness of external forces and internal fears, both of which can be barriers to your goals and may limit your success to quit smoking weed.
With strong self-reliance, you can take the necessary actions to minimize or eliminate these barriers, stop smoking marijuana and experience the power of self-determination.